Alright, let’s gab about this kime and dawson thing, whatever that is. Sounds fancy, but I reckon it’s just folks sizin’ each other up, you know? Like, is her garden bigger than mine? Does his truck run better? That kinda stuff.
Folks always lookin’ at what others got. It’s like they can’t be happy with their own darn chickens unless they know their neighbor’s chickens ain’t layin’ as many eggs. Silly, if you ask me. But that’s how people be, I guess.
This kime and dawson, or whatever you call it, it’s about comparin’, see? You look at someone else, and then you figure out if you’re better or worse than them. Like, if that city gal has a fancy car, you might feel small. But if your pies are tastier than hers, then you feel big and mighty.
- It’s like lookin’ in a mirror, but the mirror shows you someone else.
- And then you decide if you like what you see, or if you’d rather be that other person.
- Makes no sense to me, but folks do it all the time.
Now, some smarty-pants folks, they got a fancy name for it. They call it social comparison. Sounds like somethin’ a doctor would say, right? But it’s just plain ol’ lookin’ at your neighbor and seein’ how you stack up. Are you ahead of the game, or are you fallin’ behind?
It’s like when you’re plantin’ corn. You look at your neighbor’s field and see how tall his corn is growin’. If yours is shorter, you start frettin’. If yours is taller, you puff up your chest and feel like a prize-winning farmer. But at the end of the day, it don’t matter much, as long as you got enough corn to feed your family, right?
This comparin’ business, it can make you feel good or bad. If you’re always lookin’ at folks who got more than you, you’re gonna feel miserable. But if you look at folks who got less, you might feel grateful. Best thing to do, I reckon, is to just focus on your own patch of dirt and not worry so much about what everyone else is doin’.
I remember this one time, my neighbor, she got herself a brand new stove. Shiny and fancy, with all sorts of buttons and knobs. My old stove, it was beat up and rusty, but it still cooked a good meal. For a while there, I felt kinda jealous. Why did she get a new stove and I didn’t? But then I thought to myself, “Shoot, my old stove works just fine. And besides, her fancy stove ain’t gonna make her pies taste any better than mine.” And that was the truth! My pies were always the best at the county fair, fancy stove or not.
So, this kime and dawson thing, it’s just a fancy way of sayin’ that people compare themselves to each other. And that’s been goin’ on since the beginning of time, I reckon. Adam probably looked at Eve and thought, “Her hair is prettier than mine.” Or maybe Eve looked at Adam and thought, “He can lift heavier rocks than me.” Who knows? But the point is, folks always been comparin’, and they always will be.
There are different ways to compare, too. You can compare yourself to one person at a time, or you can compare yourself to a whole bunch of people. And you can compare all sorts of things – looks, money, smarts, you name it. It’s like lookin’ at two different kinds of apples, see? You can see how they’re different and how they’re the same. Then you decide which apple you like better. Same thing with people, I guess, only it’s a whole lot more complicated.
But here’s the thing, all this comparin’ ain’t gonna get you nowhere. You are who you are, and that’s all there is to it. You can’t change who you are by lookin’ at someone else. You gotta focus on your own life and make the best of it. That’s what I always say. And I’ve lived a long life, so I know a thing or two.
So next time you catch yourself lookin’ at someone else and feelin’ bad, just remember what I said. Focus on your own cornfield, tend to your own chickens, and bake your own darn pies. And don’t worry about what the neighbors are doin’. You’ll be a whole lot happier, I guarantee it.
And that, my friend, is all there is to say about kime and dawson. It’s just folks bein’ folks, nothin’ more, nothin’ less.
Tags: [social comparison, self-evaluation, personal worth, comparison, human behavior, psychology, society]
